On Being “Baba” in Public; or I’m Not Abducting this Child in the Grocery Store

  He rides in the grocery cart, his sprawling three year old frame almost too big for the seat. Up high, his face is closer to mine. We carry on a conversation as we turn, aisle by aisle, through the store. He pulls off his purple hat, handing it to me. I stuff it in by back pocket and ruffle his hair. We stop to watch the lobsters. We ponder five different kinds of tomato…

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Parenting a bio child as an adopted parent

  This post highlights RAISING BABY T-REX: MY MOM SAYS WE’RE EXACTLY THE SAME by Kaelyn on Autostraddle First off, I really love Autostraddle. It’s smart and funny and I read it pretty much every day. The author of this piece, KaeLyn, was adopted herself at the age of 17 months. Now she has a daughter who is approaching that age, and her description of what that means to her and the things she was surprised…

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Common Questions about Donor Sperm

  This post highlights “Donor Sperm: The Questions You’ve Always Wanted to Ask” by Meet the Wildes This post is a few years old, but it’s a great one that really resonated with me and it’s timeless, so I’m delighted to finally have a venue to share it. In this post Amber answers — in her straightforward, funny, personable way — some common questions people have (but rarely ask) about her children’s donor. In addition…

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The Queer Family Flirt

Hello! I’m so glad you’re here. The piece below gives you a glimpse of why I think sharing our stories publicly, and living our lives publicly, matters. I’ve been writing about our family on my blog, This Family is Sacred,  for two and a half years. I’ve been surprised, and honored, by the thoughts and experiences people have shared back with me in response to my writing. I started writing because I needed community. It worked.…

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